How To Improve Your Sex Life With Your Partner

There comes a time when you can feel the fire waning between you and your partner. Between work, family, and other commitments, sometimes passion takes a backburner in your relationship. You find yourself stuck in the same pattern and occupied with other life obligations. 

Often, a good sexual connection is built on emotional intimacy and closeness. In other words, if you’re not feeling connected on an emotional level, it can impact your physical relationship. But, conversely, rebuilding this link sparks the embers, reigniting passion and intimacy with your partner. You can rekindle the passion and improve your sex life with your partner with a few therapist-approved tips. 

What Creates Sexual Connection And Intimacy?

There’s no denying sexual chemistry is essential in a relationship. However, a sexual connection also draws significantly from genuine friendship, emotional intimacy, and openness.

A strong friendship with your partner can create a sense of comfort and trust, making it easier to be vulnerable and open with each other in a sexual relationship. In addition, being at ease with your partner and having a deep connection outside of a sexual context makes the sexual aspects of the relationship more enjoyable and meaningful.

On the other hand, fostering a deep emotional connection with your partner can create a strong foundation for a fulfilling and enjoyable sexual relationship. This emotional intimacy is characterized by feelings of trust, vulnerability, and understanding.

With this in mind, there are things you can do to keep the spark alive that are probably more simple than you think. 

7 Tips to Improve Your Sex Life with Your Partner

A healthy sex life is a significantly essential part of your relationship. Indeed, research shows that the hormones released during sex promote deep emotional intimacy. Sex can form part of a fulfilling relationship with your partner.

1. Build Tension

Creating a feeling of intense mutual attraction and desire is an effective way to breathe life into your relationship. Building tension between you and your partner adds excitement and novelty to your sex life, keeping things fresh and exciting.

In addition, this intense feeling can create a sense of anticipation and desire, enhancing the emotional and psychological connection between partners. Anticipation and tension amplify arousal, resulting in more intense and satisfying sexual encounters.

Furthermore, building tension allows partners to explore new things and push their boundaries safely and consensually. All this makes for a more fulfilling sex life with your partner.

2. Show More Physical Affection

If you’re lacking warmth in the relationship, small physical gestures of affection can become fewer and farther between. And because of this, it can feel more challenging to reignite the passion between you and your partner.

However, this doesn’t need to be the case. Physical affection, such as cuddling, holding hands, and kissing, can improve your sex life in several ways.

For instance, it intensifies the sense of intimacy and emotional connection with your partner. Additionally, physical affection increases arousal, making intimate encounters more pleasant and gratifying.

Physical affection has been shown to reduce stress and promote feelings of well-being, which can create a more positive sex life. A study found that partners who frequently engaged in romantic touches like backrubs, caressing, hugs and kissing experienced higher partner satisfaction. 

3. Set Aside Time To Spend Together

Your work, family and other life obligations can easily leave sex as an afterthought. As a result, it becomes more challenging to enjoy your relationship without pressing interruptions.

Therefore, it’s imperative to set aside time to spend together. After all, spending time together can help build trust and strengthen the overall relationship, creating a sense of security and comfort. In addition, this makes it easier to be vulnerable and open with your partner in a sexual relationship.

In addition, doing new things together or experiencing new things together can create a sense of intimacy and connection. Therefore, you should actively seek opportunities to experience life with your partner. For example, go on dates, spend a weekend away, or do any other activity where you can enjoy each other’s company.

4. Take It Outside The Bedroom 

Being intimate in the same space can start to feel a bit routine if you’ve been in a relationship for a long time. If you feel that having sex in the bedroom has become routine, mix it up. 

Taking sex out of the bedroom can help to increase the novelty and excitement, bringing a new dimension to sexual relations with your partner. In addition, being intimate in a unique setting can help to build trust and enhance the overall connection with your partner.

Engaging in sexual activity outside the bedroom can help you and your partner feel more comfortable and confident in your bodies, leading to a more positive sexual experience.

5. Foster Intimacy

Intimacy in a relationship goes past physical aspects. Instead, it’s also comprised of deep emotional closeness between you and your partner, leading to a healthier relationship.

Fostering intimacy in your sexual relationship requires effort and intentionality. This involves good communication to build trust and respect. As a result, you can freely share your thoughts, feelings and fears with your partner. At the same time, you should be empathetic toward their thoughts and feelings. Improving your sex life may start with having nothing to do with sex. It could be looking at how you communicate or how you support each other’s needs. 

6. Check In With Your Partner

When you and your partner are occupied with your duties and daily tasks, you might lose track of each other’s feelings and current stance on the relationship. In such a situation, your relationship may take a back seat. 

Indeed, research into the importance of your partner’s views revealed that relationships move along more harmoniously when you have more accurate knowledge of your significant other. Therefore, checking in with your partner is essential to nurture your relationship.

Do this by discussing what you love about each other and what doesn’t impress you so much. Frequent check-ins are particularly effective because the relationship evolves continuously. This presents various opportunities for ironing out issues, leading to a more fruitful and rewarding relationship.

7. Speak To A Couples Therapist

Sometimes the barriers to an enjoyable and passionate sex life are so complex that you can’t work them out alone with your partner. In such instances, couples therapy could help bring you and your partner closer.

This type of therapy helps you learn how to communicate effectively with your partner. As a result, you can identify the underlying causes of the rift in the relationship. Better communication also allows you to develop strategies for bridging the gap healthily and constructively.

Couples therapy usually employs techniques from other effective forms of treatment, making for a more comprehensive approach to supporting you and your partner.

In fact, various studies show that couples experienced more satisfaction in their relationships after speaking to a couples therapist.

Couples Therapy At Thriving Center Of Psychology

Many couples experience what you’re going through, with their sex life taking the backburner to other aspects of their lives. A combination of various stressors leans on the relationship, putting it out of shape.

If you want to set your sex life and relationship back on course, schedule an appointment with an unbiased and compassionate therapist at the Thriving Center Of Psychology or call our offices in New York, California, Florida, New Jersey, Oregon, Minnesota, Illinois, Massachusetts, and Washington.